Asking someone to be your groomsmen is a huge moment in the lead-up to your wedding day. These are the guys that you want to stand beside you as you tie the knot and they’ll likely be some of your closest friends and family members.
But how exactly do you go about asking them? Will they accept without hesitation, or should you expect some reluctance? In this article, we’ll go through everything that you need to know about how to ask guys to be groomsmen.
Why Groomsmen are Important
Before we delve into the nitty-gritty of asking individuals, let’s take a moment to consider why having groomsmen is such an important aspect of any wedding ceremony. Your groomsmen will play several critical roles on and around your wedding day. For starters, they’ll help with planning by lending their opinions and keeping ideas fresh in moments where decision-making isn’t so clear-cut.
On the special day itself, those chosen for this role will stand beside you at the altar as supporting men throughout various parts of the ceremony; additionally acting as master planners for pre-wedding parties while serving as key lifelines up until “I Do” time arrives. They’ll take care of tiny yet critical details – like fluffing up groomsman’s ties before everyone walks down the aisle – on top of zipping over costars from place A to B if someone forgot something crucial at home (e.g., ring).
Your groomsmen could even provide support financially during rough patches leading up towards when dreams turn reality; pitching in wherever appropriate so that no one has financial stress holding them back when it truly matters.
Overall: each member selected serves much more than just another face surrounding us while saying ‘I Do’—they support us behind-the-scenes throughout our journey together which makes it all well worth considering who gets included on this list!
Here’s How To Make The Ask:
Step 1: Make a List
The first step in asking guys to be your groomsmen is creating a list of individuals that you want by your side on the wedding day. Consider both family and friends, and think about their personalities and relationships with each other as well.
Don’t worry about trying to meet an equal number of people for bridesmaids: it’s entirely okay if you only select one or two members in each section (for example, sometimes there may be people who just don’t fit within traditional roles like bridesmaids but make great groomsmen.)
Step 2: Settle on The Right Approach
Once you’ve settled on the group of individuals you plan to ask, figure out the best approach. You could set up an evening out at a pub or invite everyone over for dinner at home; either way, this will give everybody a chance to catch up before the proposal starts proper.
You might also consider writing personal notes individually thanking them ahead of time then concluding by asking them while holding onto something symbolic like putting candy into jars or spell-out puzzles created specifically around them). Otherwise, opting for zoom-group calls where everyone cheers to your special moment might work better than paying exorbitant restaurant bills.
Or maybe there isn’t any perfect way exactly-just make sure it suits our style!
Step 3: Prepare Your Words Wisely
When making your proposal we typically recommend keeping things short-n-sweet—nevertheless brief doesn’t necessarily mean lacking thoughtfulness! It all depends on what kind of bond we share together with these guys-leaving room so that words flow naturally from us without breaking character can truely help delivery go off flawlessly especially when someone is surprised. In addition,you’ll want key messaging elements including how important they are to congrats-at-large plus clear expectations w/ regards roles-in-question which include parties leading-up-to nuptials day too amongst others familiarize ourselves with what each role demands ahead-of-time.
Perhaps sharing a heartfelt story about how you first met or an anecdote about something that happened during one of your adventures together would help set the mood – just a little detail to remind them why they want to be besties with you! Whatever we choose, keep it personal and true so that they all know this is more than just another wedding invitation.
Step 4: Follow-up
If some accepted later on than others – maybe because once-in-a-lifetime galactic events fell on important weekends; sometimes unexpected scheduling conflicts arise. Plus, or perhaps someone needed some extra thinking time before saying yes-it’s usually healthy to follow-up after ask has officially taken place.
Checking all responses are locked down will ensure everyone knows exactly what’s expected-and-no-one-drops-ball should anything change leading up towards when things get real nitty-gritty come D-day.
Asking guys to be groomsmen might seem intimidating at first, however it doesn’t need to be so hard! Following these steps could easily make everything proceed as smoothly as planned-by the end of which we’ll hopefully find out who wants in-or-out based upon their individual circumstances / obligations (because let’s face it-we still love these people regardless). Remember, above-all-once the ask takes place…’bring on celebrating!’